"Why do you have this compulsion to remark on other women's bodies? Kate Middleton, the girl who "so obviously" had an eating disorder- are those things you think of as valuable to talk about/any right of yours to comment on? ? I don't follow you consistently but I'd like to give you the benefit of the doubt that you're smarter and more kind than to consistently be like "sorry not sorry about body snarking on strangers and people in the media"."
Asked by Anonymous
Thanks for this message. You are right, I deserve this call-out. I haven’t set out to body snark anyone but looking at my blog, I have done so twice recently and it’s not appropriate.
One of the worst things about my relationship with my awful ex was that he was constantly harping on me about my weight. He’d tell me that it was part of my job as a woman to be sexy for my man, say outfits made me look pregnant, pinch my belly while we were brushing our teeth and say, “what the fuck is this?” At one point in our on and off relationship I dropped to 20 lbs less than I weigh now. When I look at those pictures I look exhausted and depressed and run-down but part of me still feels like I should be that skinny again. (I should have left him years before I did but when I was in the middle of it I was focused on trying desperately to keep him, not how sick and harmful the relationship was.)
Anyway, I am actively working on quieting the little voice in my head that tells me I am worthless unless I am extremely, extremely skinny. I think the recent body posts came from a place of grappling with those feelings about myself - but regardless of where they came from, they don’t belong on my blog. I’ll take down the offending tags and post.
I’m keeping the photo of Prince George up because I need that adorable face on my blog.